Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Raising Kids Is Lifelong

My wife and I have two kids. A three year old and a five and a half year old. It's a ton of fun and laughs like the other day when we were playing school and the three year old was the teacher.

"What's your name, teacher?"
"Umm,... umm, Pig Fairy Elsa." (His sister really loves Frozen, hence the Elsa part. Her pretend name for school that day was, of course, Elsa.)
"Oh, well okay, Mr. Pig Fairy. What are we doing first in class today?"

Raising kids though is not always a walk in the park. Like this morning when I made them drink at 6:30 am, and then offered to play a game. Sounds like fun, but then they proceeded to argue and bicker about whatever until I finally said (after ample warning),
"I don't really want to play any more if you are just going to argue. Games should be fun and this isn't that fun."
To which they both immediately said, "I don't want to play either."
"Okay then, clean up the game, please."
"No!"
"Alright then," I said, "we can give this away to the thrift store. If you don't want to be responsible and take care of your things, then you must not really want them or need them."
"No, YES WE DO! We'll clean up."
"Great. Thanks."
Well, then they decided to argue about who put which pieces away. At that point rolling my eyes just didn't help my mental state at all. "Okay, give me the game and stop fighting!"
"Are you going to give it to the thrift store?" in chorus.
"I'm thinking about it!"
Intense stereo duet of *fake* partly real (maybe) crying. 

Sheesh.

That being said parenting is a ton of fun and joy, and a ton of work and frustration. We are always asking ourselves, how should we do this, or handle that? Why won't they stop fighting? Why won't they listen? Etc etc... One challenge we often struggle with is how to get them to be for example, respectful, kind, empathetic. Of course some of these things do, just take time, but I came across a great little article recently that I thought was helpful and insightful. So really, this post is just a primer to hopefully get you to take a look at this article. Maybe it will be interesting to you, and maybe you could share it too.

The article is Are you raising nice kids? A Harvard psychologist gives 5 ways to raise them to be kind. The researcher writes, “Children are not born simply good or bad and we should never give up on them. They need adults who will help them become caring, respectful, and responsible for their communities at every stage of their childhood.”

So check it out. Leave a comment. What helped you in raising kids? Funny stories?

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